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how do i tell someone i feel worthless without them feeling like im trying 2 guilt them into treating me special

I don’t know if this is a genuine or rhetorical question, but if you’re serious, I have actual advice about how to tell someone you’re struggling with severe self-worth problems without making them feel pressured & overwhelmed by your reaching out for help. 

– respect their need to prioritize themselves first and give them space when they need it; if they need to sleep or go to work, that’s a bad time to bring up needing help if your needing help is chronic and ongoing rather than urgent and sudden

– thank them for their help more often than you apologize to them for needing it. If you thank them they’ll feel good and appreciated, but if you apologize for needing help constantly that will become just one more thing they’ll feel responsible for comforting you over 

– do your best to spread out the burden. Figure out self-care plans, hotlines to call, 7 cups of tea, other friends to talk to. You can’t rely on a single person for your self worth, but having a network of support will allow you to get the help you need without depending on someone

honestly this is the best thing ever thank you sooooo much